While in Temecula, I had a chance to talk to my team members on a personal level, and really open up about the joys and trials surrounding the adoption of my daughter Jane. I haven't really talked about the parts that make me cry with anyone but my mother and hairdresser. Most of the people I regularly have coffee with or mountain bike with are men, so... we just talk about bike parts and old injuries. When I mentioned to a mountain bike buddy that I went away for the weekend with the girls on the LUNA Chix team, went to a vineyard for a wine tasting and came back telling the story of Jane's adoption and crying, he responded with a chuckle, "Oh, so you have real girlfriends now?"
I had to think about that, and admitted that perhaps he had a point, and it made me smile.
I've never been one to have a lot of girlfriends. Honestly, women in groups scare me, so I have tended to avoid them. It was by sheer luck that I joined Team LUNA Chix, and found myself in this squad of strong healthy women with a fire in their heart, a love of adventure, and a desire to give back what had been given to them. Similar to a squad, we didn't know each other before we showed up one day for a ride, we came from all over with different backgrounds, strengths and abilities, and we were there with a common goal in mind: Help get other women outside to play.
This past weekend, I saw these women get up in the morning before coffee and go run in the cold, watched them mixing yogurt and granola with fresh-cut strawberries as a matter of habit for breakfast, heard them chatter about the races they would do this season, and the workouts they planned for themselves. I heard them talk about the setbacks they'd faced, the lack of motivation, and the job/roommate/logistical challenges. As I spent time with them, I found great comfort in their compassion, inspiration in their physical strength, and a renewed sense of connection in their weakness. I hoped that they would feel that desire to shore up my weak areas like I wanted to do with theirs where I could. I came away from the weekend with a lot more than I thought I would.
I think my mountain bike buddy was right: I have a group of girlfriends now, and it's pretty cool.
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